When
it comes to marriages or close relationships, there will be times
when people get hurt. No matter how much you care for one another or
how hard you try to keep it from happening, sometimes your partner
will hurt you. The real problem often lies in forgiving the person.
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Sometimes
we say we forgive and in our hearts we may really want to but true
forgiveness is not as easy as said. Forgiving someone close to you
such as someone you love is even harder because it comes with a
betrayal and the fear that it will happen again.
When
you truly forgive someone, you need to let the incident go. No
matter how small or how big it was, you have to learn to deal with
your feelings over it and then let it go. It will only hurt the
relationship more if you continue to bring it up time and time
again.
One
of the biggest parts to learn is how to find trust again. When
someone you love has hurt you or betrayed you, it's easy to feel
like they are going to do it again at any moment. You say you
forgive but you still walk around on guard, just waiting to catch
them doing something wrong.
This
is a human defense mechanism. You are feeling this way because your
instincts are trying to protect you from being hurt again. However,
true forgiveness will require you to let these defenses down. When
you do, you are making yourself vulnerable to the person who has
hurt you. This is often a scary feeling but it's what trust is all
about.
Lisa
Mason is a freelance writer with a specialty in Internet content She
has written thousands of articles, hundreds of ebooks and thousands
of website pages and related content. She is the author of How to
Earn a Living Writing for the Internet.
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